It seems that in love and lasting partnerships there are two important (and obvious if you think about it, but sometimes difficult to achieve in one person) things: chemistry and friendship. Both ebb and flow a bunch in long term relationships but are essential for a solid foundation. This is continually emphasized the more time … Continue reading The Secret Ingredients

Relationships are tricky. Mostly because we as human animals are tricky. Relationships of all sorts include times of boredom, fun, excitement and disappointment (among others). It can be difficult to hang on to the idea that these feelings mean nothing in the short term. Relationships are a long game thing which runs counter to our … Continue reading Greener Pastures

How Badly Adapted We Are to Life on Earth We’re used to singing the praises of the human mind and body: these are, from many perspectives, truly astonishing pieces of engineering. We have brains capable of doing fractal equations, translating Finnish into Bengali and performing La Traviata – and bodies that can scale the Matterhorn, … Continue reading Some of Why Life is so Hard…

I’ve come to regard closure as I regard fairies or unicorns. Lovely to talk about and even to hope for but not real. Some people say it exists but who knows really. It’s as if regret and open wounds are potholes in the timeline of life that we’d like to just cover and no longer … Continue reading Closure and Other Fairy Tales