As life happens, so do very difficult things. For me, this feels fresh, and as I move through heartbreak, I notice both what works and what does not. In these moments—particularly in American secular culture—we are bad at being with suffering and tend to rely on the old tagline: “Tell me how I can help.” … Continue reading Tell me how I can help

This week I have been studying ACT at the Cape Institute and wanted to share the condensed soup version of what I’ve learned! : Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on the willingness to be with discomfort/anxiety/sadness in order to lessen the struggle with those things. Like a Chinese finger trap, the stressors increase with … Continue reading ACT!

 I saw a sign that said “Thickly Settled” along the road of an old village. I was reminded of my own work and that of those I work alongside. The meat of internal work lies in uncovering deeply patterned thoughts that make functioning and relationships difficult. Thickly settled patterns that developed due to the pain … Continue reading Thickly Settled

What is integration? Its a goal of therapy and the crux of healing for many. It is taking the disowned parts of oneself, reckoning with each part and then rolling all of the disparate parts together to create a deep and interesting whole. When we are young, things happen (someone we have a crush on … Continue reading Integration